Death Meditation XII
All of us must one day go.
Go to Heaven (or Hell).
Go to paradise.
Or just “go.”
Whatever you believe, the physical end, here, on Earth remains the same result.
For most of us, the idea of us, ourself, dying is hard enough…
But processing the idea of our loved ones dying is even worse.
We spend sometimes years of days alongside someone like our spouse, making uncountable memories.
Then, one day, that’s it.
Maybe it’s when you’re both 25.
Maybe it’s when you’re both 85.
But, either way, one day, one of the two of you will be left alone on this Earth.
Our children, friends, mothers, fathers, and other loved ones may leave us earlier than we would like, as well.
Though the physical vessel of their soul has lain down in eternal rest, rejoining the Earth, you don’t really give their souls up.
You and your children get to carry on these great, beautiful (and sometimes horrible), and myriad legacies.
Going fishing the first day of summer.
Putting up the Christmas tree on November 1.
A specific recipe to glaze a ham.
A certain way of saying grace before meals.
Mottos, expressions and quirks.
We allow a tiny part of their souls to live on in our behaviors and experiences which, with some luck, our children may carry on, as well.
Death isn’t something we should fear.
It’s just another part of life and the experience.
It is beautiful and poetic in its own way, much as birth is.
Don’t fear those we love passing on. Meditate a little on death and bring it nearer — not further — to your heart, trying to herd in into understanding.
When the time comes for them, keep them close and share all those little quirks, traditions and times…
And then invite that tiny piece of their soul into you that you may have the honor of carrying it on.
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These are distillations from my coming book “YouDaimonia: the Ancient Philosophy of Human Flourishing.”