phiFor You — Motivations

Daily Meditation 1,068–2/7/2025

A short DM for today.

This is something I feel like I write about, oh…every quarter or so. But it’s a good message we should honestly be reminded of, particularly as we get 5ish weeks out from New Years Day.

When we are going for that big promotion, losing 100 pounds, gaining 10 pounds of muscle, improving a diet, reading more books, or just playing games less, how often are we making these goals in order to “impress” someone else?

I’d wager pretty often — maybe even something like 4 in 5!

Be sure when you’re setting a vision or goal for your life, you’re doing so for YOU.

Losing weight to “look hot” is great and and, but that’s external facing.
Getting a promotion to buy a sweet Hellcat is nice, but really…
Shutting off the PC to appear less nerdy is a good way to regain 40 hours a week, but you’re doing it for someone else.

There’s nothing inherently wrong with any goal, even if it is external facing, but it’s just less likely to be successful. Not only that, it’s Narcissistic in nature which can make your genuine form of self, well…on the back burner. Just wait until that new friend or partner realizes your diet, sudden reading frenzy, or gym time isn’t really who you are.

So do things for the self.