Daily Meditation 93–5/26/2022
“Ahhhhh,” they sigh as it passes through their lips. They can already sense the “feel goodies” trickling through their body in moments.
It was a brutal day for them.
They spent more than they had budgeted this week.
Bills poured in.
Their child is getting sick.
And their health is deteriorating…
The kid is in bed, and now, it’s time to let loose.
One turns to two, then three into five into eight.
Just like last night, and the night before, and the week before that…
You love them so much, but don’t know how to tell them.
You’re worried about them.
They know it’s wrong…that they are falling short. That their addiction is ruining their health.
And yet, here they are — eating a whole pizza…again.
They are obese and continue to overindulge.
Why is it morally expected for us to intervene with a friend or loved one addicted to drugs or alcohol…
But morally objectionable to mention to someone we love that their weight makes us concerned?
An addiction is an addiction is an addiction!
Society would have you believe we should “Simply love others as they are.”
And yes, we often discuss how we cannot change others. It’s true — we are entirely helpless to make change in others.
We can lead by example.
We can do better each day for ourselves.
We can pluck the beam from our own eye.
Truly, we should love others as they are — I won’t argue with this mantra.
But we also need to care enough about those we love and those in our care to have the hard conversations with them.
They may not change, it’s true.
But if we love them, we ourselves must act in a way of true self love.
Just as you would sit down and talk with your spouse, child, or sibling to confront them about abusing alcohol of heroin, so should you about their obesity.
Their financial issues.
Their excessive pornography.
Offer to help yourself by helping them.
And if they decline?
Well…you cannot change the world. Continue to change yourself.
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These are distillations from my coming book “YouDaimonia: the Ancient Philosophy of Human Flourishing.”